It’s that time of year again. Cue the song, “Valentine is coming, where’s your boyfriend? You are sitting at home lonelyyyy..”

It’s the day of roses, chocolates, teddy bears, and heart-shaped everything. Everyone asking “Who is your valentine? What did they get for you?”

PLEASE, if you could just hold on.

For some, it’s a day of grand gestures and romantic dinners. For others, it’s just another Friday where you chill with a new movie. For me, it is going to be a normal day, but I’m going to actively avoid social media and everyone’s status for the sake of my mental health.

I’m not hating, but triggering things should be avoided.

The truth is, Valentine’s Day sparks a love-hate relationship in many people, depending on their personal experiences, relationship status, and perception of love itself.

But here’s the thing: Valentine’s Day isn’t just about romance, like the way everyone has made it to be. This day is about love in all its forms; love for family, love for friends, and most importantly, love for yourself.

I repeat, Love for yourself! So, if you’re single and spending the day without a romantic partner, don’t let society’s expectations steal your joy or make you feel bad.

For singles, Valentine’s Day can be an awful reminder of loneliness. The flood of romantic posts on social media can bring feelings of isolation, making it seem like the world is wrapped in love while they remain on the sidelines; See why I’m going to avoid the day. 

Even couples sometimes find the day stressful, as the pressure to live up to societal expectations can create unnecessary tension rather than genuine connection. You have a partner asking for a ridiculously expensive gift, for just one day?

Ridiculous. 

Dear singles, there’s probably going to be a fool who is going to annoy you with the question or the assumption, “You’re always single” or “Nobody gave you anything shey?”

But remember that fools like that don’t deserve to make you think about your life. Like my good friend’s boyfriend advised me,” Give the most sarcastic answer that ends with them feeling like fools.”

So, that’s it. Celebrate love in a way that makes sense for you. Take yourself out for a nice meal, send a thoughtful message to someone you love, or do something kind for a stranger.

Love should not be confined to romantic relationships. Celebrate other form of love. 

Happy Valentine’s Day! Please enjoy this day with my stories. If you love me, you will do so. (Manipulative, yeah?) but oh well.