From someone who has had her fair depressing share in situationships, I’m here to say, “If you see signs of situationships, stand up carefully and leave that table.”

And if you don’t, I promise you that you’re going to be getting over someone who wasn’t yours to begin with. And who wants to start the year with a heartbreak that wasn’t necessary?

Definitely not you. 

I believe that there are people who come into your life to teach you one or two about life. This is just God trying to build you up and change you. In my life, I’ve seen people come in to teach me things. It ends well, sometimes, not really. 

But, that’s life. 

Even though God gives us connections, I believe in the power of rejecting some people and these are people that only offer situationships and not the perfect love story that YOU deserve. 

To me, situationships are unreasonable relationships that people have, where they do things that people in a relationship do, but aren’t dating. 

I had a situationship once and barely knew what it was until I saw the signs. The first sign was that I couldn’t understand his texts properly. They were vague and I was trying to decode what they actually meant. If you’re confused by the texts, there is a possibility that you are in a situationship. People in relationships don’t need to worry about decoding text messages because everything is clear. 

The next sign I realized was when I was worried over the word “We”. If you or him/her are unable to answer the question “What are we doing?” you may have been caught in the web of indecision and therefore, a situationship. 

Another sign to look at is their social media. If their social media screams “single” and “unavailable” at the same time, proceed with caution. You are single and he/she is not taking you seriously!

If you want to avoid a situationship, learn the ancient art of asking direct questions. Yes, it might feel awkward at first, but it’s worth it to avoid the messy feelings later on. "What are we doing here?" "Are we dating, or are we just... enjoying each other's company?

If they can’t give you a clear answer, that’s a red flag.

What you need to do is to set boundaries. Imagine yourself as the strictest, no-nonsense club bouncer ever. You’re letting people in, but only if they show they have the right intentions. If they come at you with any uncertainty, send them straight to the exit. You can just tell them, "I’m looking for something serious, and if you’re not, that’s cool, but I’m not going to waste my time."

But the best way to avoid a situationship is to love and respect yourself fully. If you find yourself constantly chasing little crumbs of affection from someone who’s playing with your feelings, it’s time to take a step back. Love yourself enough to know when it’s time to walk away from a relationship that doesn’t serve you.

See, we’ve all been there. We've all been in that awkward phase between texting “goodnight” and wondering why they haven’t replied. We’ve been jealous of the people that are close to him/her. 

So if you find yourself in a situationship once again, quietly leave and set boundaries. Situationships are hilarious stories to tell your friends, but if you can avoid it, please do. 

Before you laugh about it, you’re going to cry about it.

 Spread the word," Avoid situationships!" 

 You’ve got standards and they should be high.