Who is a sapiosexual?

Well, I'm certain we've encountered this term quite frequently. However, it might surprise you that approximately 80% of people are not familiar with its true meaning. But fear not, I'm here to provide a clear explanation.

Before delving further, let's begin with the definition. A sapiosexual is someone sexually attracted to a person's intelligence, while a Sapiophile is romantically drawn to someone based on their intelligence. Do you see the difference? A sapiosexual is focused on sexual attraction, whereas a Sapiophile is inclined toward romantic attraction. It's possible to be both, but being a Sapiophile without being a sapiosexual is unlikely, unless one is asexual – experiencing no sexual feelings or desires. These individuals, known as asexual Sapiophiles, seek romantic connections without the sexual aspect, and they can still have fulfilling relationships.

The confusion between "Sapiophile" and "sapiosexual" is common. Now that you comprehend the difference, let's proceed to the primary reason for this discussion.

A sapiosexual (bear in mind that I'm referring to a Sapiophile as well, without repeating the conjunction "and" each time) disregards all other attributes in a person except their intelligence. Gender, looks, or physique don't matter; all that counts is their intellect. Regardless of physical appearance, they'll be enamored if you stimulate them intellectually. This is not an academic discourse; I won't define intelligence narrowly as book smarts. It's crucial to emphasize that intelligence encompasses various aspects. Some individuals excel academically but lack intellectual depth in other conversations. A sapiosexual is attracted to all-encompassing intelligence. In essence, all sapiosexuals should theoretically be "pansexuals," attracted to anyone regardless of sexuality or gender.

However, personal priorities may influence this. In my case, religion takes precedence. Being attracted to one's gender feels unnatural to me, differentiating me from a pansexual. If you appreciate intelligence but still consider looks to some extent, you are not a sapiosexual or a Sapiophile. These groups disregard looks entirely, valuing thought processes, wit, and intelligence. They look at your brain, metaphorically, appreciating beautiful minds – those that mentally stimulate, offer diverse perspectives, and even intimidate with their intelligence.

Now, you might wonder, how do they measure this intelligence? Conversations play a crucial role. Engaging in certain discussions requires a certain level of intelligence. I've admired individuals for their incredible intelligence, opening my mind to new ideas. However, when I shared them(those people) with my sister, her disappointment arose from the disparity between intellectual attraction and conventional physical attractiveness.

Sapiosexuals are indifferent to age, excluding minors. I've been attracted to individuals well over sixty due to their intriguing minds. This extends to all my teachers. I share these personal insights to present a genuine sapiosexual perspective, even though I'm not keen on fully identifying with the term, given its misuse. If someone claims to be sapiosexual, it signifies a focus solely on a person's intelligence. It's not the boastful flex people assume. The smallest things can turn them off.

I used to be more discerning and disdainful in choosing associates, driven by pride. However, I've consciously worked towards being more open and engaging with people of varying mental capacities. There's a common misconception that sapiosexuals are expected to be highly intelligent, but this isn't necessarily true. While a certain level of intelligence is essential, the most intelligent people may not identify as sapiosexuals or Sapiophiles.

Many people appreciate good looks and physique, but sapiosexuals are a distinct group. They could be with someone considered physically "revolting" due to their unparalleled intellectual dominance. I refrain from using "physically revolting" as a label, as I believe no one should be categorized in such a manner. Yet, the question arises – can you be with a "physically revolting" person because you're attracted to their brain? For genuine sapiosexuals, the answer is yes; physical appearance holds no sway. There are indeed people who embody this perspective.

While I may not have delved into this as intensely as I'd have liked, it suffices for now.